The Love Shift: Why More Men Are Hiring Matchmakers (And Winning)
There’s a quiet revolution happening in the world of modern dating — and it might surprise you who’s leading it.
Men. Professional, high-value, intentional men.
The kind of men who once thought matchmaking was something reserved for rom-coms, reality TV, or that one aunt who "knows someone for you." But the narrative is shifting, and fast. The dating app fatigue? It’s not just a women’s issue. Men are burnt out, too. They're tired of feeling like they're hiring a full-time team just to decode mixed signals, navigate shallow conversations, or plan yet another lackluster first date.
And the truth is: they don’t want to waste time — they want to get it right.
📊 According to eHarmony and Pew Research, over 65% of singles say they’re “emotionally drained” by dating apps. Even more telling? Matchmaking services are seeing a rise in male clients, with some agencies reporting up to a 40% increase over the last two years.
The New Modern Man Is Dating Differently
Let me introduce you to "J", one of my favorite (and formerly skeptical) clients. When he first reached out to me, he was courteous — but cautious. He actually said,
“I feel like matchmaking is something women do. I’m not sure this is my lane.”
He was done with short-term flings, tired of transactional dating, and knew something had to shift. He is a successful entrepreneur, in great shape, grounded in faith and family, but his love life? Uninspired.
So he took the leap.
We started with the work. Coaching. Real conversations about past patterns. A profile rewrite. A curated approach to connection. And then I introduced him to her. From their very first date, it felt different. No games. No performance. Just two people who were emotionally available, aligned in their values, and open to building something real.
Fast forward: They’ve been together for over two years now. They travel together, they’ve blended their friend groups, they talk about legacy and long-term goals. And if my matchmaking intuition is right (it always is), he’s weeks — maybe days — from proposing.
He still tells me it’s the best decision he ever made.
So… Do Men Hire Matchmakers?
Yes. And the smart ones don’t wait until they're exhausted — they hire one when they’re ready to date with intention.
This isn’t about outsourcing your love life. It’s about co-creating it with someone who gets the nuances of modern dating, emotional compatibility, and personal growth. It’s guidance and gut. Strategy and soul.
And Ladies — Let Me Be Clear…
These are the kind of men many of you say you’re hoping to meet:
Emotionally mature
Self-aware and growth-oriented
Commitment-minded
Open to feedback and intentional matchmaking
They exist. And they’re investing in finding YOU.
I’ve always said, "Dating doesn’t have to be hard, but it does have to be human." That’s what matchmaking is. It’s not an algorithm. It’s an art.
And in a world filled with digital distractions, human connection is the ultimate luxury.
Whether you’re a man tired of the noise and ready to find her, or a woman wondering if men like this still exist — let this be your sign: Love is still happening. People are still choosing each other. And matchmaking is not only back — it’s better than ever.